Last night, as I was having trouble falling asleep, I thought about how I have always, for as long as I can remember, had trouble falling asleep. As a child, however, the unquietness of my mind stemmed from far more fanciful, yet strikingly more fearful subjects. I was, in general, a bold kid. I’d touch any bug, perform any daring stunt, tackle any social situation (shyness came along with bad skin and unfortunate fashion decisions in junior high), but I was cripplingly frightened of the shadow-world of possible evil I imagined when alone in the dark.
Ritual kept me safe. Every night, after my parents read to me and tucked me in, I would say, “I love you I love you, goodnight goodnight” and they would answer with the same redundant phrase, as I had instructed them to do. You had to say it twice, you see, to make absolutely certain it was heard and understood. Then they would leave the door open a crack with the hall light on, so a narrow beam of gold fell comfortingly across my bed. Sometimes, when Daddy was in a silly mood, he would leave the door open a “butt crack,” measuring the width of the opening with his posterior. I would laugh, but when he had gone I would get up and close it to its normal two inches…he didn’t know (how could he!) that skeletons could creep in through a larger opening. With the skeletons safely shut out, I only had to worry about the witches in the closet, the mummy in the niche over my closet, and whatever-it-was lurking under my bed. “Everybody and everything, I love you I love you, goodnight goodnight,” I would whisper out loud, to ensure that the ghoulies, ghosties, and beasties of every sort didn’t feel offended or left-out and creep in to take their revenge. I pulled the covers up to my chin–to protect my neck from vampires–and lay on my side–to protect my heart from the stabbing blades of “murderers.” I lay in the dark, frightened, and thought about things that troubled me. About the witches, skeletons, vampires, mummies, and murderers, yes, but also about nothingness and nonexistence. Someone must have explained to me what death was around the age of five or six, and the concept of non-being gave me a chilling sense of vertigo. Actually, it still does.
I no longer lie in bed hearing the creaks of the sleeping house as monstrous footsteps of innumerable nightmares. Contemplations of what it must feel like not to exist are rarely allowed to trouble my mind. My worries now, however irrational, are far more likely to come to pass than any of my childhood fears. And yet, while I still have trouble falling asleep, these “realistic” fears are warm and welcoming compared to the perilous nightmare-world I invented as a child, in which safety was secured by a delicate web of precautions and rituals that, if disturbed even a little, might bring disaster.
A rich imagination is a child’s greatest asset by day, and her darkest curse by night.